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  • የስንፈተ ወሲብ – ከ10 በላይ ምክንያቶችና ከ10 በላይ መፍትሄዎች

     

    በአንድም ይሁን በሌላ ምክንያት የሚፈጠር ችግርን በግልፅ ተነጋግሮ፣ መፍታትን ባህሉ ባደረገ ማህበረሰብ ውስጥ የስንፈተ ወሲብ ችግር የትዳር አደጋ የመሆኑ ጉዳይ ብዙም አሳሳቢ ላይሆን ይችላል፡፡ሀገራችንን ጨምሮ በአፍሪካና በኤዢያ በትዳር ተጣማሪዎች መካከል በግልፅ የመነጋገር ባህል የዳበረ እንዳልሆነ በስነ ማህበረሰብ ሙያተኞች የተጠኑ ጥናቶች ያረጋግጣሉ፡፡ ስንፈተ ወሲብ ፆታና ዕድሜ ሳይለይ ይከሰታል፡፡ አደጋ የሚሆነው ችግሩ መከሰቱ ሳይሆን፣ ጥንዶች በተፈጠረው ችግር ዙሪያ በግልፅ ተወያይተው መፍትሄ ለማፈላለግ ዝግጁ አለመሆናቸው ነው፡፡

    በፍቅረኞችም ሆነ በባለትዳሮች መካከል የሚፈፀም ወሲብ፣ ለሁለቱም የእርካታ (የደስታ) ምንጭ መሆኑ ሲቀር ‹‹ለምን?›› ብለን መጠየቅም ሆነ ርዕሰ ጉዳዩን በጠረጴዛ ዙሪያ አምጥቶ አለመነጋገር ብዙዎቻችን አንደፍርም፡፡ ፈቃደኝነቱም የለንም፡፡ ችግሩ እየተባባሰ ሲመጣ፣ ግንኙነቱ በፍቅረኝነት ደረጃ ላይ ያለ ከሆነ በቃሽኝ (በቃኸኝ) በሚል ይቋረጣል፡፡ ትዳር ከሆነም የፍቺ ጥያቄ ማቅረብ በሀገራችን የተለመደና በየጊዜው ቁጥሩ እየጨመረ የመጣ ክስተት ሆኗል፡፡ የሚገርመው ግን በፍቅረኞች (በትዳር) ደረጃ የተመሰረተው ግንኙነት፣ በአንድ ጀንበር ለማፍረስ ሲወሰን እውነተኛው ምክንያት ከመጋረጃ ጀርባ የተደበቀ ነው፤፤ ፍቺ የጠየቀችው ሴቷ ከሆነች ‹‹ይሰክራል፣ ይደበድበኛል፣ ገንዘብ ይደብቀኛል፣ ከእኔ ሌላ ሴት ወዷል ወዘተ…›› በሚል የውሸት ጭንብል ትሸፍነዋለች፡፡ የትዳር ይፍረስ ጠያቂው ወንዱ ከሆነ ደግሞ ‹‹ትጨቀጭቀኛለች፣ ገንዘብ ታባክናለች፣ ከእኔ ይልቅ የምትሰማው ወላጆቿን ነው ወዘተ…›› በማለት ለግንኙነቱ መሻከር ቁልፍ ምክንያት የሆነውን ችግር ወደ ጎን ሲገፋው ይስተዋላል፡፡ ‹‹ችግሩን የደበቀ መድሃኒት አያገኝም›› እንደሚባለው፣ የስንፈተ ወሲብ ጉዳይን በሀገራችን ባህል ለውይይት የማይቀርብ አጀንዳ በመሆኑ፣ የብዙ ትዳሮችን መፍረስ ከመጋረጃ ጀርባ ያለ አብይ ምክንያት ሆኖ ዛሬም ድረስ ቀጥሏል፡፡

    በዘርፉ ጥናት ያካሄዱ ሙያተኞች ስንፈተ ወሲብ መፍትሄ ያለው የስነ ልቦና፣ የአካላዊና የአዕምሯዊ ጤና ችግሮች ውጤት ነው ይላሉ፡፡ በዛሬው ዝግጅት የስንፈተ ወሲብ ችግር ምንነትን፣ መንስኤን፣ አጋላጭ ምክንያቶችን፣ በሀገራችንና በዓለም ላይ ያሉ አማራጭ መፍትሄዎችን እንደዚሁም ከርዕሰ ጉዳዩ ጋር በተያያዘ፣ መታወቅ አለባቸው በምንላቸው ሐሳቦች ዙሪያ፣ ሙያዊ ማብራሪያ እንደሚከተለው እናቀርባለን፡፡

    ጥያቄ፡- ስለስንፈተ ወሲብ ችግር ምንነት፣ የተወሰነ አጠቃላይ ሐሳብ ብናነሳና ውይይታችንን በዚሁ ብንጀምረው ጥሩ ይመስለኛል?ዶ/ር፡- ስንፈተ ወሲብ የሚለውን ቃል፣ ጠበብ ባለው ዐውዱ ሲታይ፣ የወንድም ሆነ የሴት ብልት አለመነቃቃትንና ለግንኙነት ዝግጁ ካለመሆን ጋር የቀጥታ ቁርኝት ያለው ነው፡፡ ነገር ግን ስንፈተ ወሲብ ብልት ለግንኙነት ዝግጁ አለመሆን ማለት ብቻ አይደለም፡፡ ከዚህም ሰፋ ያለ ትርጓሜ ያለው ነው፡፡ የስንፈተ ወሲብ ችግር በሁለት መንገድ የሚከሰት ነው፡፡ የመጀመሪያው ተፈጥሯዊ በሆነ የአፈጣጠር ችግር ማለትም በክሮሞዞን፣ የሴትነትና የወንድነት መገለጫ በሆኑት የኦቫሪና የቴስትሮን አፈጣጠር ችግር ምክንያት የሚፈጠር ሲሆን፣ ሁለተኛው ከውልደት በኋላ በዕድገት ሂደት በአካላዊ፣ በአዕምሯዊ፣ በስነ ልቦናዊና በአካባቢያዊ ምክንያቶች የሚፈጠር የስንፈተ ወሲብ ችግር ነው፡፡ በዚህ ወቅት የሚፈጠረው ችግር ለግብረ ስጋ ግንኙነት ፈፅሞ ዝግጁ አለመሆንን፣ ጭራሹኑ ስሜት ማጣትን፣ ፍላጎት አለመኖርን፣ የመጨረሻው እርካታ ላይ አለመድረስን፣ የሌላኘውን ስሜት ሳይጠብቁ ፈጥኖ መርካትን፣ ለግንኙነት ዝግጁ ያለመሆንን ሁሉ ያጠቃልላል፡፡

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  • Defense Minister confirms defection of Eritrean pilots to Ethiopia

     Ethiopia's Defence Minister and Command Post Head Saraj Fegessa, has confirmed in a press conference that was held yesterday at TorHayloch Mekonenoch Club the defection of two Eritrean pilots on Wednesday flying through Ethiopia’s northern city, Mekelle, Humera airspace in their military aircraft Zlin-143-102. 

    Source:Dire Tube

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  • Eritrean Mother charged For Strangling Her Three Year Old Child

    A mere three-year boy was found dead Wednesday in Sanddalsparken in Svendborg Denmark.The child’s mother, who had been alone present in the apartment with the child in the morning, could not account for the child’s sudden death and came with several different explanations for what might have happened, writes Funen Police in a press release.

    At the end of the interview she told However, through her interpreter, that she had strangled her child, and she was arrested.She has not yet given any explanation as to why she smothered her baby, says Henrik Justesen, deputy police inspector and head of investigations.

    Autopsy confirms explanation

    Police also do not know how the boy was strangled.The woman, who is from Eritrea, produced in hearings 14.30, where the prosecution will request the doors closed.This is for the sake of the relatives – father and another child – and because there are people that need to be questioned, says Henrik Justesen, who also adds that despite the mother’s confession still many things that police should investigate.

    The information from the 23-year-old woman is consistent with the autopsy of the child have shown that the cause of death was asphyxiation. There was also no immediate signs of violence.According to Ekstra Bladet information is the couple’s second child, also a boy.Summoned by ambulancePolice had received news of the death at 13:40 by ambulance staff who had been summoned by the family. They tried in vain to revive the boy.

    Ambulance staff find it strange that a child of three years suddenly dies, and therefore they send us, says deputy police inspector.But because communication with the 23-year-old was severe she speaks only Eritrean language and due to her changing explanations, it was not until the evening that the police could find that their suspicions proved correct.Sanddalsparken where the woman lived with the three-year boy, her husband and another child in eastern Svendborg.

    Hidden victimAccording to a local resident was Emergency Services and an ambulance on site yesterday afternoon. Soon after the police arrived, and a man and a woman were led out of the apartment and driven away.

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  • Do This Easy Exercise To Boost Saggy Breasts-Try For A Month And See For Yourself

    Sagging breasts are many women problem. Some doctors says that sagging breasts appear because skin loses elasticity. Factors that can cause this problem are: aging, smoking, pregnancy and being overweight.

    Well, we all know that we can stop the time to stop aging but we can put other factors under control. If you need ways to organically enhance the appearance of your chest, then you are at the right place!

    Here we have some natural remedies:

    1. Exercises

    Exercising is the best way to repair connective tissue and muscles around the breasts. Search Home Remedy recommends these exercises as the most effective:

    1.1.Chest Press.

    Lie on back and put a dumbbell in each hand. Extend your arms up and hold for 10 seconds. It works the pectoral muscles.

    1.2.Arm Raise.

    This is a simple arm raise and is for an extended stretch .Stand with your feet apart and then reach straight up. This exercise stretches your body in preparation for a workout.

    1.3.Pushups.

    Start this exercise on your stomach ,push your body up and don’t forget to keep your back straight. The weight of your body will strengthen the chest muscles.

    2. Olive Oil Massage

    Top 10 Home Remedies recommends an olive oil massage to repair skin tone and texture and also to improve the appearance of sagging breasts. Antioxidants from the oil can repair the damage made by free radicals.
    All you need to do is massaging your breasts with olive oil for 15 minutes a few times per week.

    3. Good Posture

    Carry your body straight so you will make a positive impact the appearance of your chest. An article from Organic Facts,says that hunching your shoulders don’t support your breasts so they droop with the shape of your body, which greatly contributes to the dreaded sag.

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