1. They leave their future to "the fates."
“Relationships shouldn’t require so much effort; if we’re supposed to be together, things will work out.” Sometimes things do work out but it's much more likely to happen when both members of a couple take an active role in building a solid relationship.
2. They believe "things just happen."
“Why do bad things always happen to me?” The reality is that both bad and good things happen to everyone. You can wait around for a good thing to happen to you, or be proactive and make one happen.
3. They confuse failure with destiny.
“I guess I’m just not meant to (fill in the blank).” Failure is part of everyone's journey, not the last stop. Avoid this thinking by holding to the three Ps: Patience, perseverance, and persistence.
4. They believe ‘luck’ is an important ingredient for success.
“Luck just wasn’t on my side.” (Or, “Other people get all the breaks!”) Luck, however you define it, is not in your control but preparation, planning, effort, and timing, are. Focus on those variables instead.
5. Their language is hesitant and tentative.
“OK, um, it’s possible it could be kind of like that." Pay attention to your qualifiers and hesitations and practice speaking more directly. Speech patterns are sheer habit, and they can be changed.
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